When told something by someone I trust, and I mistakenly believe it/accept it as fact, I feel kind of vulnerable; and going along with what I’m told feels horrible but at least I don’t feel vulnerable and alone.
However, I’ve had a change of heart, all together regarding vulnerability; in that I’ve now shifted to believe that it’s merely about staying true to my good/positive authenticities and knowing that a ton of people are behind me to back me, such as the people on this site. Someone once said that overcoming the feeling of vulnerability has nothing to do with winning or losing, but it simply has to do with showing up.
If someone tells you that you’ll never be able to _____ again or that you are some ______ (insert something negative) thing, don’t believe that person. He or she doesn’t know for sure - there are studies and research, but every single one of us is different with outcomes, etc.; besides, what do you have to lose in trying? Strange things and/or miracles happen, and no one - no one - can predict what you will be capable of doing.
It’s easy to believe what you’re told - especially if it’s said over and over again and becomes the recording in your head and/or from someone you trust and/or perceive to be of higher stature, etc.
We can just do what we can, and who knows what can happen. We can just keep trying, stay positive, keep moving, keep imagining and feeling, and take the baby-steps to make that feeling a permanent one. As someone who I admire for having such great courage says, “don’t let your dreams get dusty”. Imagine it - so much so that you can feel it - then take baby-steps toward that which you imagine.
People are human beings and make mistakes; and what they say isn’t guaranteed, so forgiving them frees up our energy to put toward something else that’s much more important and worth it.
Whatever is meant to happen will happen, even if it’s a cliche and sometimes disturbing; just keep moving, keep believing in yourself, and be prepared if what’s meant to be turns out to be extremely awesome.
As one inspiring video noted, never underestimate what you can do when you believe in yourself.
Never stop believing in yourself, no matter what. Please know that plenty of people believe in you…it helps to know this when you struggle with believing in yourself.
Also, there’s a quote about daring greatly that says:
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man (or woman who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly…"
Basically, you have to show up; you must take the risk; expect to fall and fail, and when you do, get up and try again. If you need a break, take a break; and never stop trying.
I like to think that anything is a choice - not as far as choosing to walk if you’re paralyzed, etc. - but we have a choice as far as how we think about that…whether or not our thoughts come from a place of fear or from a place of love.
The same is so for going for it; you can decide to go for it and possibly humiliate yourself and possibly succeed - or you can decide to spare yourself any humiliation and any risk and have regrets for not trying.
The most empowering thing is that you can decide which “path” to follow. It’s all up to you and what you want to do.