Bladdder issues

I go to the continence clinic.The problem is more deluge than leaking.The trouble is as it is a common problem I am treated like everyone else and told to do the excercises and not to drink caffeine.I have to wear monstrous pads all the time and every time I am vertical there is an escape.I am only vertical when I go for a wee with help.I need to have acknowledged this may be ataxia related and they need to come up with a more permanent solution.None of the muscles down below seem to work as they should.What have you had done if you have probs in this area. What worked what didn't?Can't bear the indignity.