Hi Lori - I just read this reminder: sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding a prince. Is there a spot on online profiles for frogs/potential princes to search?
LOL
Hi Lori
Iām 59 in a relation ship and it all has changed sense I have got ataxia. I canāt hide it my voice,handwriting,wobbles,no one wants to be alone everyone whatās to feel wanted but no one whatās a man with this disease
im 58 single and hate being alone,hopefully,someone female will have me .I hate being alone,im looking for a wife forever ,who wants me ,have me. John.p. the uk x x x
Hi Trevor. How sweet. You could always come to the states also. LOL Yes I did meet someone. But I dont know if its the ataxia or what. But I just cant trust. And I do feel down. A lot! I always feel something is going to happen. My life just seems so busy because it is so hard to do things. I get so tired so fast. I do realize old age plays a part in that. LOL
People just do not realize what ataxia feels like. We look good sitting with our mouths shut. But when we get up. OMG!
Trevor it is so nice to hear from you.
Hereās something to consider:
http://www.datingdisabled.net/home/?linkId=7&refMailId=818888699
I was reading something else, and these are some things to consider with dating - online or whatever:
Lori, my e-mail is ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā please contact me.
I am 82 and married, so I donāt feel lonely, I need help in some things and my wife needs help in others so it is working out for us so far. I think we really need to find activities to do with the disabled and those not disabled, The more people you meet the better your chances to meet good people and not get taken for ride by ignorant people looking for sex fun, your finances or whatever. Jerry
dating? have not done that in what seems like forever! i have enough trouble trying to make friends. im 35 now and donāt see dating in my future at this point
ataxia is rough
I am just reading your message about dating. I understand you dating. I know for me when I was dating I was about 38 now 44. The female at the time was 49 and it was wonderful. I will say, women are more excepting of illness than men. I am making a stereotypical statement but it is true. I will say do to her being older than I. I might be younger than her but my mobility is horrible. I will say this āI work out and do good with my dietā so that shows in some ways or another. I am trying to keep it clean.
Itās the men you are dating because most men shy away from responsibility. I hate saying this but itās true in most cases. They may take on if they have too. Sometimes that is with a gun.
Hi again. I had some more thoughts that you would like to hear. I am not dating anymore. That women is now 55. To me she acts like she is 55 now if you ask her how she actās she will say 45. Donāt get me lying! I was thinking this. I had to retire at 37 now 44. She still works. She doesāt tell you the truth about what she can do but hurtās worst then me and I have the illness. Her diet is lost like a dimond in the ruff. You can see I am ill but they way I carry myself you would never know. I deal with her stuff but for how long if itās BS the stuff I deal with?
I have had ataxia for 34 years. My youngest child was 3 years old when the symptoms sporadically appeared.
I used a rollator walker off and on, but never regularly until this past year. My ataxia has become a mobility problem, with nystagmus. I fall easily, and have broken more bones than I care to count. Right now I fear walking without the rollator.
I have been alone since my husband died 10 years agoā¦I did meet a man who is 8 yrs. Younger than me, but that hasnāt seem to matter as far as friendship goes.
We have had a close friendship if you can call it thatā¦for the past 9 yearsā¦We confide in each otherā¦things we donāt share with out familiesā¦encourage each otherā¦and seem to know when things are not going wellā¦a text message or a phone call always seems to come at a needed timeā¦for each of usā¦but thatās as far as our relationship goesā¦.no dating. He knows about the ataxia, but I have always felt the age difference bothered him more than anything elseā¦until now.
I broke my hip and femur a couple of months ago. He was clearly upset at the seriousness of this break, but seems to have backed away almost completely since.s
I am lonely. I donāt want to be alone. I need a man who will be there for meā¦a loving companionā¦A man who will let me be a part of his lifeā¦and who wants to be a part of mine.
Except for this ataxia I am healthy.I donāt take prescription drugs and I try to be active as much as possible.
Iāve gone on various dating sites. I donāt hide my disabilityā¦I term it an equilibrium problemā¦one which doesnāt keep me from going places, doing things, and enjoying life. Iāve met a fewā¦only one or two remain in my lifeā¦as friendsā¦.maybe Iām too particular, but because I have this disease does not make me a lesser personā¦one who has to āsettleāā¦.and so, after all is said and done, my hope is in the Lordā¦I trust Him to see me through each day,. He knows what I need, who I needā¦and above all, who I amā¦better than I know myself. I wait on the Lord to answer my prayers and to guide me.
I hope youāre recovering ok ā¦it canāt be easy coping with this and ataxia
My first inkling that āsomething was amissā happened in the mid 1990sā¦Iām married but that didnāt make it any easier when I was coping with unexplained, confusing symptoms. Having a partner doesnāt always mean support and understanding are there when you need themā¦
It took more years than I care to mention until the penny dropped with my husbandā¦and he realised I was coping with something serious.
Nowā¦thankfully the situation is different, but only because my symptoms have progressed and Iām visibly disabledā¦thereās no denying the situation.
When I most needed empathy and support it wasnāt there. After coping āaloneā and being accustomed to my symptoms for so many years I feel indifferent to support now.
Life is always greener on the other side of the fence
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