Is it kind of hard to keep a husband? To me it was. He ended up divorcing me in 2013 cus of “family problems”. But I don’t believe that! I think he couldn’t keep that oath: “in sickness & in health”. I have sca 10, so I couldn’t do everything he wanted me to. I don’t hate him at all, I just assume it was for the ataxia that he divorced me for. R there any good men out there?!
My husband is great about me having atexia and we have been married for nearly 18 years but I do agree that it is very hard to find someone who excepts your problems. I’ve had friends and some of them have even walked away from me. I had a good friend who wasn’t bothered about me having atexia but she died from breast cancer just before Christmas and I don’t think I’ll ever get another friend like she was.
You wonder how people can be so cruel but it’s a fact. It’s very hard to get a job once you menshion that you have atexia.
But I believe that there is the perfect Man for you who will understand. is there such a word as the perfect person!!
I am single, and have been divorced for 17yrs, and I haven't found another partner. Since being diagnosed with spinocerrebella ataxia last year I have been thinking It would be nice to have someone to talk to, go out with. I will be stopping work soon and I will be a bit bored, kids are grown up, I going to be a grandmother in October, so that's something positive. I feel It will be very unlikely that I will start a relationship anyway because im sick.. that sucks.
I have been married 11years. I was diagnosed 8 years ago. My husband does not touch me. I think he hates me for having all these problems. He always tells me he wishes he never married me, and i was the biggest mistake of his life. He also tells me I’m such a disappointment to him. I am such a pain, and so clumsy and slow. I think he is going to leave me. In a way, I hope he does for how bad he makes me feel. I don’t deserve to be treated this way for having this disease. I hear there are wonderful husbands out there who stand by there wives through this. But not mine!
Well it’s his problem. If he can’t stand by you when you need him the most, he’s not worth your time and energy.
Not all men are like that, my husband seems to except the atexia. It me who believes I’m not wothly of his love.
He except me for who I am. I don’t believe anyone is that perfect with or without having atexa or any other problem
hey heidi, what kind of things did ur ex want u to do that u were unable to? can u be more specific?
Hi, Im So Sorry your husband treats you this way, no you don't deserve to be treated badly from a man who is supposed to love you. if your all those things he doesn't like, tell him he can leave, if he is so inconvenienced by your slower walk, clumsiness, and whatever else he doesn't like. This is a difficult time for us as we don't like being this way, and we fear what is to come next, is a little support too much to ask. Be strong, whenever you need to vent , go ahead, we are all here for you xx
butterflyflyaway said:
have been married 11years. I was diagnosed 8 years ago. My husband does not touch me. I think he hates me for having all these problems. He always tells me he wishes he never married me, and i was the biggest mistake of his life. He also tells me I'm such a disappointment to him. I am such a pain, and so clumsy and slow. I think he is going to leave me. In a way, I hope he does for how bad he makes me feel. I don't deserve to be treated this way for having this disease. I hear there are wonderful husbands out there who stand by there wives through this. But not mine!
My ex was seeing someone else..that's why she is now gone..Any ladies as well ?? lol
I'll gizz ya a hug, Ozzy
YES it is hard to keep a husband. I’ve had three and after a while they couldn’t take the falling, slurring of speech (because it made me sound drunk and it was embarrassing to them), but my third husband has stuck with me. we’ve been married 27 years. He helps me up and down stairs, picks me up when I fall, etc. as for the speech, I have found a good chiropractor who has shown me the pressure points under my throat that cause the tongue to work.
i have gone to a nearo-opthomoligist for my eyesight and it is related to ataxia. it is a bit blurry at times. then there is the fumbling with picking things up, and holding on to them. also, my handwriting is bad. I don;t send out Christmas cards anymore; my writing is bad and my hand cramps after a while and gets tired quickly.